Ever guilty of branding matter with [deserved] doses of scepticism, I’m afraid to say this perspective picture may just get a dolloping. Yeah, we’re going to talk about this intended ‘so inspiring’ message before anyone else starts believing it.
‘Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness; you will get your own happiness.’
Right. Where it is an ideal and beautiful thing to have the confidence that someone will eventually deliver your happiness; where it is true we can source somebody else’s happiness, in theory; in a realistic world, it’s just not practical. Where we may gift wrap the hell out of that balloon of happiness, and deliver it to our recipient with the swiftest, most efficient service, how do we trust that our courier’s intentions are good? What if we have to bear the brunt: losing our happiness to the lost/stolen/damaged pile?
For a second, we’ll say that ‘happiness’ is one of the purposes of life: To be happy, to do what makes us happy, to make other people happy…happiness is a big part of our existence. A huge thing to rely on someone else for…
‘Everyone is frantically looking around for happiness all around, not knowing where it is.’ Granted. But to suggest that it’s in the possession of somebody else, waiting to be given? Well that’s way too passive and dependent. In any other context, if we don’t know where something is, we look for it. We can’t find it? We replace it with a replica or something else fit for purpose. We don’t just sit around expecting it to turn up out of the blue. Well, most of us don’t….
What’s really happening here is happiness is becoming pawned. Heck, your happiness can’t just be handed to you in a bid to secure some kind of social equilibrium; you create it. You decide what your perception of happiness is; you do all in your power to achieve said happiness, and maybe- just maybe- you may just get it. Maybe. It doesn’t just come knocking on your door.
However unfortunate a concept, the truth is, relying on anybody else for our own happiness is just careless. In a euphoric world, scepticism may be an unfamiliar word, but in reality, it stands closer to truism than we may think. Let’s face it, a world where there is a consensual notion to live hand-in-hand in a circle of harmony would be too functional, even for a functionalist. Way too ideal.
I mean, we can make a metaphor of this whole balloon idea, if we really want to. I suppose if we want our happiness to take shape, and stay with us, then we’re just going to have to put energy into it. If not, we could face watching it fly away….
It was an alright thought though.